Finding Your True North: A Chill Guide to Authentic Goal Setting

Setting goals can sometimes feel like trying to outrun a cheetah while juggling flaming torches, what should be an exhilarating adventure turns into a frantic dash against time. Instead of getting tangled in a web of expectations and societal pressures, let’s hit the pause button and delve into a more genuine way to set goals. In this guide, we’ll simplify the process into manageable steps, focusing on self-reflection, aligning with your personal values, and mastering the art of enjoying the ride without spilling your popcorn.

Silence Before Goals

To begin your goal-setting journey, find a quiet space where you can be alone with your thoughts. Set aside 10-15 minutes without distractions. Breathe deeply. Focus on yourself. Ask the most fundamental question: What is truly important to me?

This isn’t about simply wanting more clients or a new car. Focus on what genuinely makes you happy. Picture a screen in your mind, allowing your true desires to fill it. Research suggests that 70% of people find greater satisfaction when pursuing intrinsic goals, like personal growth or strong relationships, over extrinsic ones like wealth or status. Reflect on those deeper needs to uncover the goals that resonate with your true self.

A Vision, Not Just a Goal

When setting goals, shift your perspective from traditional targets to visions of how you want to feel. Instead of saying, “I want five clients,” reframe it into a more meaningful vision: “How do I want to feel while working?”

Do you crave creativity, freedom, or connection? Is it about having the flexibility to enjoy life outside work? By creating a vision anchored in feelings, you’ll better guide your actions and stay motivated. For example, visualize your ideal daily life, including working hours, leisure time, and personal interactions. This vision acts as a beacon in navigating your responsibilities.

It Measures the Soul, Not Numbers

In a world dominated by metrics, it’s easy to evaluate success solely based on external validation. Let’s change that mindset.

Instead of measuring your goals by how others perceive you, focus on how you feel. For instance, if you complete a project that aligns with your values but it does not get the attention you hoped for, ask yourself: Does this accomplishment bring me joy or growth? Remember, progress means aligning your actions with your true self. Your journey should feel enriching and encouraging, not just another list of targets to chase.

Alignment with Values

Before diving into defining specific goals, check for alignment with your core values. Each goal should resonate with your commitment to integrity, family, health, or love.

When you write down a goal, assess it: Does this resonate with who I am at my core? If a goal doesn’t reflect your values, it could lead to dissatisfaction in the long run. For example, a goal of working overtime for a promotion may not suit someone who values family time. Authentic goal setting is about mapping your course based on what truly matters, avoiding the pitfalls of trending ambitions that don’t fit.

Goal as a Road, Not Just the End

Think of your goals as roads paved with opportunities to change and grow, not just stops along the way. Set goals that transform you from within, rather than simply checking off a list.

Instead of rushing toward an endpoint, consider how to enjoy the journey to your desired outcome. Embrace the aspects that challenge and shape you. For instance, if your goal is to learn a new skill, focus on the process of learning, not just the outcome. Remember, these goals should be companions on your journey, guiding you rather than dictating your pace.

Embrace the Journey

Goals are not just destinations; they can reveal so much about who we are. When you set a goal true to your essence, the universe often aligns to support you. This perspective shift can make the process feel less like a chase and more like an invitation to experience life.

When we view goals as extensions of our souls instead of escapes from the present, we start finding harmony between our aspirations and current moments. With each step, we learn more about ourselves, creating experiences richer and more fulfilling than any measurable success ever could provide.

Take Action

Now that you’ve reflected on what truly matters, let’s put that insight into action. Grab a piece of paper and jot down three goals you currently have in mind.

After listing those goals, examine each through the lens we’ve discussed. Are they aligned with your core values? Do they inspire you, or do they feel like another task? This self-reflection will encourage a deeper understanding of what authentically drives you.

Embracing Authentic Goals

Authentic goal setting is about truly discovering your north star amid expectations, distractions, and numerical targets. By connecting with your values, envisioning the life you desire, and embracing the journey, you're fostering a movement toward a more meaningful and joyous life.

If you're eager to explore even more of your authentic goals and discover how to achieve them with grace, consider booking a free introductory coaching conversation. Let's embark on this exciting journey together!